Dear Friends and Family,
We want to start with a HUGE thank you for the love, support and encouragement you have given us during these last two and a half years. This has been both the hardest and the best thing we have ever done. We are so fortunate to have you in our lives. This is a difficult letter for us to write. It must include an apology. Some of you may get your feelings hurt during the next few months. Please understand that our actions are not intended to offend but rather aimed at what is in the best interest of our daughter. We have done our research and have come up with a plan that we feel can best support her in this transition into our family. Allia has been through a lot in her short 9 months of life. We want her to learn to trust us and know us as her parents who will love and provide for her every need. Adopted children are moved from place to place and live in situations where they are not always able to get one on one attention. This often leaves them with challenges creating the necessary attachment with their parents. So our main priority over the next few months is to dedicate ourselves to bonding with our sweet girl. We wanted to share our plan with you so that you will not be surprised at what may seem like “over-the-top” parenting tactics.
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Our first month home will be exactly that – we will stay home as much as realistically possible. During this time we will be the only people to hold Allia. We will carry her constantly as if to replicate the time that babies spend inside their momma’s belly. We would be happy to have short visits during this month at home from our close friends and family.
During month two of being home we will start to make trips out and about. Each of us will take turns having evenings away while the other parent gets some alone time with Allia. We as her parents will continue to be the only ones to feed her, change her diaper and comfort her when she is upset.
In the third month we will begin to transition into more of a normal routine as Megan prepares to return to work.
Please believe us when we say that we value your role in our lives and eventually in Allia’s as well. Our efforts are meant to equip her with the skills she needs to grow up as a happy and healthy member of our family. Thank you for your understanding. Of course our timeline may change as we decide what best meets the needs of our daughter. We have a lot to learn as we experience parenthood for the first time!
With love,
Jeremy, Megan & Allia
